Strip Away the Superficial. Self Love Sunday.

Welcome to another Self Love Sunday. Let’s strip away the Superficial. The arena under attack?  Hollywood. Many of you will be watching the Oscars, dreaming of a glamorous life, admiring men and women who appear perfect and to have it all. The United States is pretty obsessed with Hollywood. There is an even an obsessive-addictive disorder called, “Celebrity Worship Syndrome.” You also see many young people attempting to look and behave like many of their favorite stars, running to plastic surgeons and stylists, completely removing their own identity.

Plastic Surgery is a huge multi-billion dollar business. It has not only soared in profit in America but other women Japan, Korea and China choose to scalp their faces and other body parts to look more American or European. Many of the wiser women in Hollywood admit their love of the knife.  Jane Fonda says in a recent photo shoot, “I’ve had plastic surgery. I’ve talked about that. That doesn’t matter.” Or, does it? What do we teach future generations about beauty, aging, and wisdom?

“I’ve seen my grandmothers grow old and they are so beautiful. Every wrinkle in their face tells a story. I want to feel that in 30 years. I would always choose that kind of beauty over the kind that comes from having too much done to yourself.”  Penelope Cruz

Research has recently concluded Selfies And Plastic Surgery: New Poll Shows Link Between Social Media And Rise In Plastic Surgery Procedures. When we Instagram, Facebook, Twitter our mug and want the best impression and most followers, we gotta look good, right? Yet, much of the older generation is left sensing the disconnect between authentic connection and superficial relating.  I am, at least. As a Self Love Coach and energetic healer, I don’t look at my clients in the same way. I can see through to their body organs and it becomes my duty to see them as a whole person.

Do I, like you, enjoy or somehow biologically prefer more attractive people? I think we’ve become socialized that way. We appreciate beauty, that’s a fact. But, beauty has become photoshopped and cut and pasted. It doesn’t link itself to wisdom, strength or character any longer. It’s simply about appearance. This is the issue I have with superficial forms of it.

My plea today is for women to love themselves wholly – with the cellulite, stretch marks, saggy breasts, imperfect smiles and double chins. The women that gave birth to beautiful nine pound babies in their small size 7 and the women who gave birth to seven pound babies in their larger size 14. I also want the men to know this beauty deeply. Some of you do and support those of us who choose nature to bring us closer to who we are.

14 Replies to “Strip Away the Superficial. Self Love Sunday.”

  1. Beautifully written! Agree totally! I celebrate my body who will never give birth to children as well. Not by choice, not my choice but loving yourself is a choice no matter the challenges. Embrace YOU just the way you are.

    1. Thanks Dee! I agree – women with children, no children, disabled, elderly, young, of all nations and of all religions can practice self-love. Embracing ourselves sometimes comes with more obstacles than for others and that’s where I come in. I assist through the self-love obstacle course.

  2. I absolutely love this! It is so important to look beyond the outer and see within. So many awful relationships would end or not start if we opened our eyes to look beyond.

  3. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on self-love. I believe it is important to find your inner beauty! Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses and we are all individuals! This is a well written outlook on how you view beauty, thank you for sharing it with us.

  4. A beautiful message on self love- I agree absolutely! We have a choice- every day. Acceptance or rejection. We have to make a choice, as difficult as it can be to go inside and get to easy to be swayed by society with all the focus on beauty and aging for sure. Thanks for the reminders 🙂

  5. Love this! I too have started to look at people differently since I started my journey toward becoming a health coach. I see each body part and feature as an amazing piece of a miraculous puzzle. I have began thinking of the human body as a beautiful work of art no matter what shape or size it comes in. This is what we need to teach our children 🙂

  6. Awesome post! I adore the quote you used by Pendlope Cruz. Personally, I can agree 100%. I feel 100x’s more attractive in my 30’s than I ever did in my 20’s. I feel like I get better and better each year.

  7. Beautifully written. Growing and birthing children really taught me to love my body as it is. I was one of those that gained a galatic amount of weight despite working out regularly and eating healthy. I just had to accept that is what it needed to bring healthy children into the world. My body has changed since and lack of the ability to workout 6 days a week also keeps me from the body in my 20s. Learning to accept our bodies as is is a wonderful gift to ourselves.

  8. I agree that this is a huge problem, one that I hope my children never feed in to. I am very careful not to quantify worth by physical characteristics. It is so important to not place a person’s value on the external. We are so much harder on ourselves than anyone else ever could be most of the time. I try to always be gentle and accepting toward myself.

  9. I couldn’t agree more! When did we forgo the beauty of voluptuous women, like the ones portrayed in classic paintings? I also love how you touched on men needing to see the beauty in women aging. So many times men feel they must leave the woman that gave them their beautiful children and instead find a “trophy” wife to adorn their arm.

    Hollywood doesn’t help and neither do the fashion magazines that so many of our young girls are so infatuated with.

    I think we need to start with our children when they are young, both girls and boys, to help them see the beauty in aging and that, like the old saying goes, Beauty is only skin deep. You must have a beautiful spirit.

  10. As I’ve gotten older, it has become quite clear to me that beauty comes from within, and I’ve started to appreciate all of the things that have aged with me. Would I like to have the skin I had at 18? Absolutely! Would I want to BE 18 again. Not in 2015 that’s for sure! I am turning 54 this year, and love everything, good and bad, that I have gone through to get here, and embrace it as who I am.

  11. Love this! So true and so sad that people are really hurting themselves to look better for whom??? I realize some people have huge self esteem issues and that maybe this helps them, but I still believe they need to look a little deeper. Nicely written!

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