Self Love Sunday. Presence. Are you present?

It’s almost December. The air feels cooler and crisp and you may desire to nest in your home, snuggle up, warm cup in hand and breathe in awareness. Maybe whisper your gratitude. In my environment, it is an opportunity to spend time outdoors, feet in the grass, come alive and be more present.

There is so much stimulation in our modern environment. We have options like no other time period. Our external worlds provide for 24/7 distractions and entertainment. I cannot imagine a person ever finding a moment to be bored. How is that possible? I would ask.

We stimulate one another in conversation as well. My female friends and I especially. It is easy for us to talk a few times a day, texting often, planning, preparing, discussing, searching, finding answers. My mother joins in this circle. She wants the latest on her grand-daughter, my work, sex life, what I am wearing. It is our way, as women, to groom one another, to provide emotional bonds and strong ties of friendship and love. It grounds us. We have someone to keep us from floating in fantasy and to think about the Present.

Presence is a deep concept. Its power can be felt in meditation, its beauty in the throes of love-making, discovering our mortality, feeling a loss, or creating a masterpiece. I walk with Presence in my writing, my willingness to look into someone’s eyes and connect with all of them — looking past their physical presence while still recognizing I am a separate person and not going to get lost in my amazement of another Soul.

Presence can be sensed.  My six year old recently discovered the word psychic and I was trying to explain the definition to her. Yesterday she used the word in the right context. A psychic can feel, hear, smell, taste, sense, see, or visualize something or someone without having proof. Presence is like this. It is a ghost-like form that follows you, waiting for you to recognize it. It wants to connect with you, to perhaps entice your senses and how you react is always the challenge.

Presence is an opportunity for connection to something, someone. One of the more well-known writers on presence is Eckhart Tolle. He is gifted in his advice on enlightenment and awareness. He writes “As soon as you honor the present moment, all unhappiness and struggle dissolve, and life begins to flow with joy and ease. When you act out the present-moment awareness, whatever you do becomes imbued with a sense of quality, care, and love – even the most simple action.”

When we separate ourselves from Presence it is like a light has been turned off. We can still feel hear, touch, feel our way through the room, but there is more fear and maybe a lack of in-sight. It’s not like blindness, rather it is the realization that we didn’t turn on the Light and chose to go into dark space without the desire  to see what is inside the room. We make these types of choices at so many moments, so many days in a row, many do this for years of their lives.

I would like to give some self-love alchemy advice here about Presence. I want you to turn the Light on. Get your feet on the ground, and feel yourself on that Earth.  “Breathe in deep,” I always tell my daughter, and she now repeats to me. It sounds so simple and maybe you have done this recently if you are often in consciousness circles or practice. But, choose Presence whenever possible.

There are going to be profound ways your life can change when you stay present. You cannot blame another for something when you have the Light on. You aren’t as afraid as you can more clearly navigate what’s in front of you. While circumstances and people will still arrive in your space to negotiate with, you can use intuitive responses that heighten higher plane response. When we choose to live and choose with presence, we no longer look back and have regret or guilt. We knew what we are doing, after all.

Any time I am personally faced with connection, intimacy or love, I feel the powerful pull of Presence. It asks me to trust it, turn the light on, and breathe into it. I can choose what to do with it, how to respond to who or what shows up in the room. It’s my Spirit guide, my psychic awareness, my script if you will.

6 Replies to “Self Love Sunday. Presence. Are you present?”

  1. I am bad about being in the present – I really need to focus on it more. Thanks for bringing this to my attention and shedding some light on the subject.

    I very rarely do what I need to do when it comes to myself – I need to work on that more!

  2. I agree – when you people give themselves time to be present, they are centered and better in tune with what their body, mind and spirit needs.

  3. Absolutely! this is something I am working on — taking a step back from the “busy-ness” to be more present. I try things like a short meditation or breathing/grounding exercises. When I find myself truly present, those moments seem brighter. great post!

  4. I often have to ground myself when I have to deal with difficult people. It is not always easy but attainable. It also helps me not react to things said or done. Thanks!

  5. Great post! It amazes me how many people can go through life and never really live it. It can be easy to get sucked into bouncing between the future and the past, but I find when I do this, I am not fully participating in my own life. I think our ability to be present is one of the greatest gifts that we have. Being grounded in the present allows us to have a clarity that would otherwise be lost. Thank you for sharing!

  6. To me, being present is also about being mindful. And in growing my health coaching practice I have really tried to be focused on being more present and mindful in all situations and embracing the moment. Life is to short not to enjoy every moment, or to realize that there is usually always good in something bad.

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