Finding Your Voice for Self Love Sunday
I wrote last week about Wayne Dyer’s concept of finding your voice. As we approach the afternoon of our lives, it is much easier to discover our desires, who we are, what our gifts are and how they want to be expressed. We have less regard for the opinions of others and more interest in developing authenticity. In this discovery process we also may see resistance from others and even coming from within. And yet, it is a magnetic pull to what’s calling us, a deeper meaning in life.
Our culture doesn’t often promote authenticity as it upsets the ego’s reliance on what’s popular, acceptable or attractive. We’ve been molded to believe that others are happier, have more, do more and create more as we watch bits of their lives on social media and the internet. We get only slightly attached to wonderful projects of peace, kindness and generosity because that is all we have time for. And it simply leaves us, at the end of the day, wondering if there’s more.
There is more. So much more. The best way to find it, perhaps, is to move yourself gently away from what distracts you to finding you again.
The noise from televisions, coffee shops, clubs and sporting events is personally too much for me. I have never been comfortable in that much noise. With personal research I found articles on being an introvert as well as an intuitive empath. I have most components on the list of an empath and some on the list of introversion. I also have Attention Deficit Disorder and have found the positives in meditation and finding time for solitude to get my mind quiet and finding my voice.
The other thing I have talked a lot about is childhood trauma. My parents both apologized to me at different points in their lives and mine to let me know they did make mistakes, they have had to live with those choices and forgive themselves just as I have forgiven them. This trauma made me unknowingly make choices that were not always based on confidence and who I am. I chose career paths, relationships, places to live and other big life choices by the influence of others. It has taken me more than forty years to get closer and closer to my own voice. I had to cozy up to myself, close the blinds and quiet it all down many many times in my lifetime. It is this process, along with journaling and writing for so many years, that has truly assisted in who I am today. The holistic path is what sealed the deal for Self Love. A process, not a destination.
Meditation and yoga are just a couple of forms of connection to Self. There are other ways and I encourage you to find what works for you. Fishing, taking a hike, sitting around a fire, fasting, cleansing, being in prayer with thousands of others or just around a table. Finding your voice is being able to disconnect from the body and its psychology and move inward towards breath and Spirit. It commands practice and intention sometimes having to disappoint others who rely on you to be in a certain place at a certain time in a certain way. Many discover that there is a transitional moment when it feels difficult to balance the needs for self-discovery with the needs of others. This transition can last years or sometimes a lifetime. You may decide that freedom is more important than pleasing those around you.
On this Self Love Sunday I want you to know that freedom is not selfish. Freedom is actually how God or Spirit wants us to feel. Neale Donald Walsch says “Freedom is the basic concept and construct of life everywhere, because freedom is the basic nature of God. All systems which reduce, restrict, impinge upon or eliminate freedom in any way are systems which work against life itself.” It is also International Peace Day today. I wish you much peace on your Path, and for the World.