Self Love for Kids – Self Love Sunday

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It begins so early in life. Self Love for kids. Competition, comparing, feeling inferior or bullying others. I remember it when I was a child too. It seemed like some girls were the cute smart ones, others were stuck-up, others were incredibly smart and too adult-like, while others were the trouble makers, and some were simply liked by everyone.

My daughter is 7 and she has a birthday in the summer. She is often described as articulate, smart, and can handle conversations with adults with ease. She is an only child which makes her ability to converse with older people (like her 47  year old mom) a normal occurrence. She got all A’s this past quarter with some hard work and determination. She paints, draws, writes, practices the Ukulele, hangs with kids in the neighborhood, and loves movies, board games and all types of other activities. This kid stays busy, and creates.

I noticed pretty early on in second grade that my daughter was feeling inferior to a girl in her class as she mentioned that she could run fast, was the smartest in the class, and had many other qualities so enviable. When I met the little girl at a school event, I thought to myself, THIS is the little girl you keep comparing yourself to?! I didn’t get it.

Sena and I have had many conversations about self love, self esteem, and not comparing ourselves to others. We have rehearsed ways to handle bullying, teasing, and friends not treating us well. I sometimes worry about my sensitive child listening to small minds of small children.

Sena had told me she was working on a book about one of her friends at school, a friend she constantly complains about and whom she is usually fighting with most of the week. I covered the girls name in the book and re-named her Shh Girl. Here is Sena’s story:

My name is Sena . I try my best to listen but I know I have to try harder. Shh Girl is my best friend. She is the quitest in my class.  A few months later…. I was doing better. I think I may be like Shh Girl, or not. I will have to work very hard. One month later I am pretty horrible and BAD.  I know… I have to be like Shh Girl. A few months later  I was very good. I know this will work. I know I can do it this time. I can be like Shh Girl…. One month later I DID GREAT! I almost did it but one day I will be like Shh Girl.
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Our books both taught us something about Self Love. I encourage all parents to use opportunities like these to teach your children lessons in courage, uniqueness, and how to be resilient against the world while still being kind, compassionate and sensitive.

Keep loving yourself,

Cynthia Djengue
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