As a Holistic Life Coach I pronounce more than just good food will help you manage to love yourself, your body and your life a little bit more. Motivation and Inspiration are meaningless without being able to forgive yourself and others, opening up to life, and risking a little pain. It takes a dissecting of what you want and who you want to be that gets to where you want to go. Motivation is found through digging deep, gaining some clarity and molding your attitude over the course of your life. Inspiration can be found through looking at the lives of others.
Our stories and bylines get addicting. We create personas and character traits through relationships – whether they are face to face or through some type of internet or phone connection. But, if we had to let go of some of that story, whether it be due to our own desire to emerge anew or, because of unfortunate tragedy that creates necessity for all new words, meanings and roles, then life might actually take on an interesting twist and force us to surrender a little more and control a little less. Motivation often collaborates with pain and reality.
Stories of real people. We all know Julie Andrews – famous for her beautiful singing in The Sound of Music and many broadway plays. She was diagnosed with a non-cancerous cyst on her throat, ending her career as she knew it. But, she kept private, began performing in other roles that did not include singing and finally, discovered ten years later that she had her voice again. She was willing to let the experience of almost losing her voice completely change her roles in the music, film and Broadway industry. Andre Agassi, that great looking tennis player who so famous in the 1990’s was on top of his game. But, he started to fail drug tests and was found to be using crystal meth. His rankings plummeted and his tennis career was almost over. Then, he realized the love of the game and the privilege of being a top-ranked player. He had to work very hard to rise up and remained in the Top 10 for the remainder of his career and, in his autobiography. admits tennis was never his game anyway, it was really his father who pushed him to compete. There are thousands more stories and people like this.
Whether it is poor choices from a famous actor, singer, athlete, or a politician, us common folk are able to witness lives crumble, and, make comebacks, and perhaps crumble again. And, we should be taking notes, not because these persons became popular again or because they appear to have it all, rather because they remind us of our humanity. A life lived provides a context for living in a flow. Pema Chodron, author of ‘When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times’ says this,
“We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don’t really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It’s just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy. (10)”
There are times to get up and and start fighting again, and there are times to lie down and let your body and mind rest and assume the world continues to revolve around you as you realize you can’t control it all. Where do we find the motivation and inspiration once we realize that there is no perfection?
Perhaps the Law of Attraction has fallibly offered to us that if we just believe, we can make it happen. Too many persons believe that a lot of strong will make IT happen, or IT appear. IT can take a lifetime to get really good, and, even then, you will still have major failures and disappointments and even self-inflicted pains and for some, self-sabotaging moments. Michael Fortin, founder of the Licorice Group, actually has strong words to say about the “make it appear like magic” mentality on his blog, “It’s the same as weight loss. You can’t lose overnight what often took years to gain. In the same way, you can’t change your thinking overnight, because it took years to build and condition, be it through experience, education, expectations, etc. Even genetics. Focus on the positive, yes. But you must take action. And that’s the point. People expect “the secret” [movie] to be a magic pill. And they take no action believing the secret will magically save them. They look at the law of attraction as a cure rather than as a tool.”
The other point to all of this inspiration and motivation work is this: We do not know the path of someone else’s story and how they got there. While we are drawn to glamor, money and success, a beautiful body, a strong athlete; the human part of the story gets lost.
Motivation and Inspiration come from within, with tired response to endless life circumstances and insightful, self-aware and spiritual awakenings that give it meaning.
It is also helpful to define the differences between motivation and inspiration. One author, Wayne Dyer defines Inspiration coming from being, “in spirit.” Inspiration comes from outside forces often, stories, persons, words or feelings. Motivation, or motive, is more like an action, and moves from within and creating action. Danielle Laporte asks us, “What is pushing you? What is pulling you?” and encourages to follow the pull. The pull of life feels more like flow. It is taking you forward, magnetizing you without conflict.
John Lennon says this of ‘the pull’ as he speaks of fear and love, “When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” And, perhaps that is the missing link. Self love, and knowing what and who you are, and what you want the most, is the missing link. Self-love provides the warmth and comfort to move forward despite being imperfect. Continue to move towards motivation with the inspiration you gain from loving others and yourself. It will change your life as you currently know it, and perhaps that is “the secret.”