You can give and Receive. Self Love Sunday.

If you give more in business, do you believe you will receive more? If you give more in your relationships, do you believe you will receive more? Some have been programmed to produce, produce, produce in business and in relationships. Perhaps you were taught at a young age that if you didn’t listen, behave, clean our room, or manage other tasks or behaviors parents wanted you to exhibit then you wouldn’t receive or feel love. In business, this can happen just the same. A supervisor rewards for certain behavior, meeting goals, and producing profit or great customer service. Behavior is taught, rewarded, then learned. Pavlovian simplicity.

Yet, what if you took more control of this productive behavior so that it was more about you rather than someone else? You would certainly feel less resentment and realize that the power of giving results in the power of receiving. Let me say that again.

According to Deepak Chopra, leader of consciousness, speaks of the Seven Spiritual Laws of Yoga, one of which is “Giving and Receiving.” An affirmation you can speak to yourself to remind yourself of this spiritual law is above. Wherever I go, and whoever I encounter, I will bring them a gift. The gift may be a compliment, a flower or a prayer. Today, I will give something to everyone I come in contact with to begin the process of circulating joy, wealth and affluence in my life and in the lives of others. It doesn’t take a lot of energy to give someone a compliment or a flower from your garden or apartment complex. But, these small gestures are a signal of energetic circulation. Energy is circular, some may say it moves in a figure 8, which is a symbol of eternity or infinity. Did you also know it is the direction and cycle of the hummingbird wings?

Giving to others cannot be done with resentment, otherwise that resentment flies right back towards you. Giving cannot be done with expectation, otherwise others often expect you to give them something when you receive. It’s all cycle, it’s how energy works. Thus, when you want to build relationships, create great customer satisfaction, and choose to exist in healthy and loving relationships, you GIVE. You don’t give because it’s expected, or because you think you will get something back in return. You give because you know it eventually comes back to you and this is the energy you want to create around you.

You also choose to receive. In this super productive world of ours, where it is so easy to get distracted at every moment we take pause, we can barely relax or get into flow. When someone asks you to do something you may feel like it is one more thing piled on top of an already impossible schedule and some of you will begrudingly say, Sure. Then you will complain, whine and go through the motions even though you are tired, overwhelmed and probably won’t do them a big favor by agreeing to something you can’t do. Give yourself some space and time to get into flow of energy. Ask yourself what your needs are and know when to say no. Have you received lately? It’s not about checks and balances but about being in flow. If you can’t give any more, perhaps it’s because you’re not “full” and haven’t received lately. Time for a bath, a night out, or anything makes you feel comfortable and at ease.

I know what it feels like to have too much to do, which is what I wrote about last week. It is these types of lessons where we check in with ourselves and find ways we can receive. The Hummingbird is the highest energy warm blooded animal with a heart beat of 500 bpm and the ability to fly and hover. This is why they live on cane sugar. Within minutes they burn it off and need more. An intense and beautiful animal. Leave your healthy (un-colored) sugar water for these little guys and they will treat you with their presence. Receive. Give, and Receive.

6 Replies to “You can give and Receive. Self Love Sunday.”

  1. Great post! I really love what you wrote about giving without expectation or resentment. I know that whenever I give I have to make sure to let go of any expectations, even if it is just expecting a certain reaction. I find it is much more beautiful that way (plus it prevents resentment!) I love Chopra, and that quote really hits it on the head. The more focus I’ve put into bringing joy into the lives of others, the more joy I personally feel. It is a marvelous cycle! <3

  2. This is a great post and such an important message… love the reminder to give. I especially agree with your comment about checking in with ourselves to see if we need a break from all of the constant giving and instead need to focus on recieving. thanks for this post!

  3. Great post, “giving is receiving” – words of wisdom and a nice reminder to evaluate if we are motivated for ourselves or for the feeling of reward by learned behavior.

  4. This post is a wonderful reminder of how fulfilling giving can really be. It is important of course to make sure that you take care of yourself, but there is a gift in itself whenever we are able to give without expectation of anything in return. I don’t know if there is a way to authentically give without receiving anything in return because just the energy of putting the good out there is a gift.

  5. I love the self care part of this post…we have to figure out what fills us up and recharges our batteries. I love counseling for this. When I leave my counseling appointment I feel refreshed, understood, valued and heard. We all have to do special things for ourselves to be able to keep the energy circle flowing!

  6. I love this post! It is always better to give from the heart without any expectations from that person, as most likely we will receive from someone else. Learning to receive is something I need to work on.

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