Have some fucking gratitude. Self Love Sunday.

Life is unfair

The people in the jails, prisons and the ghetto, across the border, those that cannot drive, vote or show their faces in public. The girls who cannot attend school, the starving children laying on the street, the political prisoners, the hostage-held journalists, the children being abused daily, and the rape victims coming out of the closet.

The gays and lesbians who have no rights (well, that just changed since I wrote this post). The black man who cannot get a job. Women shamed for breastfeeding. A family unable to choose where their children can attend school. I have seen it, felt it, heard it, and even tried to cure it at many times in my life.

Being an Empath can suck

I figured out some time ago that I am an Empath. It means I feel all this stuff a little deeper than most. I want to help.  I want to cure. I want to solve.  But, it gets overwhelming. I have to step out of  and away from the impoverished environment I am visiting, get into a clean car, a clean house, with my full refrigerator and several computers, and keep producing my way towards freedom.

I find relief in my abilities to work, to vote, make almost any kind of decision I want to, to eat and drink what I feel like, to travel, to visit my mother in prison – on the other side, not having to face the literal lifelong sentence of a bad decision or two.

And, yet, I want to get up and shake the shoulders of all of those around me and shout, “Why are we letting this happen?”

Shit happens

I discovered that best friends can be cruel, spouses hurt one another, bosses decide when to cutoff your paycheck, children get sick. Your own body starts to age and hurt and cost you money, your country creates cutoffs, your community makes the wrong vote, your neighborhood constantly changes and your children… you just cannot keep up.

Your car doesn’t last forever, nor your dishwasher, nor your toilet, nor your pipes or your roof. The money comes, and it goes. Some of you hold onto it for as long as possible.

The biggest energies I pick up on, as an Empath, that frustrate me the most, is the lack of awareness of your own need for repair. Did you know that you are Perfect, so long as you are recognizing that perfection?

All of us, in our imperfections, are still creations of God, the Universe, dust and energy formed into working orders of Perfection. Your biggest obstacle, though, in representing this perfection, is that you are not Grateful.

How to be More Grateful

I don’t care how you find Gratitude. In fact, here are some ideas:

  • Find a football game
  • Eat too much for one meal
  • Say Grace, and an Amen
  • Hand out some high fives, life feels good when your team wins
  • Bring a new baby in the world
  • See your child cured of cancer
  • Grandpa remembered you today [smile]
  • Your girlfriend is finally saying yes, with integrity
  • Your Mom seems happier
  • Your Dad didn’t drink too much
  • Your brother said I love you
  • Your sister made you Executive of her Living Will
  • Your boss didn’t micro-manage
  • Your partner wants to try something new
  • Your neighbors didn’t complain of your dog barking again
  • Your car is still squeaky clean and drives well.

It feels better when we are recognized, feel connected, and share love. But, if I can ask you to do something, it’s to be a little more fucking grateful.

I have chosen positions in my life that give me the right and access to hear stories of people’s lives.  I have talked to thousands of people, possibly in the tens of thousands of people, from all over the World and all walks of life.

Some die bitter and sad, others leave this world feeling accomplished and celebrated. (This is not a think-about-the-end-of-your-life piece either). It’s the minutes or days that I get to spend with mostly strangers that I learn the greatest of lessons.

If this person had not chosen their path, if they didn’t migrate or settle here, or choose to escape something, or work hard, or survive trauma or war, then I wouldn’t have had the privilege of meeting them and hearing their story.

Perspective

It seems to me that many persons who choose to make choices that are full of fear and risk are those that have the most interesting stories.  It is the people who had great loss and great gain, tragedy, trauma, or near death experience that find a way to rely on something bigger than themselves.

They are able to be a little more open-minded, their hearts are further expanded, and their wallets are hardly ever closed off to most people that need their help. They may not look as healthy, attractive and their living arrangements may not be as nice as yours.  But, their hearts and souls are open.

They are grateful to be alive. They don’t live in fear.  If they are lucky, they are grateful for Love. If they are really lucky, they are grateful for health, money, jobs, and all of the little things that come along with having a life in Gratitude and Abundance.

So, if you don’t feel alive today, then perhaps you need to let this all really sink in. By the way, this is a piece about having a little fucking Gratitude.

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9 Replies to “Have some fucking gratitude. Self Love Sunday.”

  1. Loved this post! I agree completely. It’s finding these little seemingly simple moments in our days that bring so much joy to our lives! Gratitude is key to a full and healthy life. This was wonderfully written as well and made me smile. 🙂

  2. I agree that gratitude is so important! I think that we create our own reality and if we are focused in the positive, in what we have, rather than do not, then we more satisfied and not left wanting. I absolutely think that gratitude should be practiced every single day.

  3. I think at this time of year, people are thinking a little more about gratitude, but in my opinion, it needs to be integrated more completely into our lives everyday. Focus on the smiles your children give you, not the nights they keep you up crying. The thoughtfulness of your husband, when he did something unexpected, instead of the times he leaves a mess in his wake. Take joy in the daily rainbows!

  4. great writing, Cynthia! I see your points. There are a lot of people in the world who are stingy with their loving energy and then there are those who seem to be made of grace. As in all things, I think that seeing both ends of the spectrum helps us decide where we are and where we want to be…

  5. An attitude of gratiitude=- love it! I think if we fostered this as a society we would have so much less depressions and so much more equality! Thanks for sharing at such a poignant time 🙂

  6. I absolutely love this! So raw and to the point. People can tend to get so wrapped up that they don’t ever step back and just say thank you. I could not have said this any better.

  7. Awesome read! I totally agree, people need to have more gratitude. Too much self pity going on. There is something to be grateful for everyday!

  8. Absolutely!! I completely agree.
    I too am an empath and feel that I want to ‘fix’ people all the time. But by helping others see that that they already have so much to be grateful for, then that’s really all we can wish for.
    I’ve been posting a daily gratitude post on my FB page for over 2 years now, every night and it really helps me get my life into perspective.

    Great article!!

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