What makes you want to change? Thinking happy thoughts.

If you have had a nagging voice inside that begs you to change, why haven’t you?   What stops you from doing that which you swear is going to take you to the next level of happiness or health? Maybe it’s the job you hate and swear you’ll leave someday or the relationship that continues to drain of energy and balance.   Perhaps it is the mole that keeps growing, the boxes of clothes you keep meaning to get rid of, a piece of art sitting in the corner, or a book you haven’t finished in months.  Is this symbolic of some type of resistance?  Perhaps.  More importantly, the thought process and endless nagging is what needs to change.

Happiness, according to Shawn Achor, is the ability to “lower the activation energy for habits you want to adopt, and raise it for habits you want to avoid. The more we can lower or even eliminate the activation energy for our desired actions, the more we enhance our ability to jump-start positive change.”  I have talked about using Law of Attraction an energetic thinking in previous writing, but basically, persons often focus on change as a process that is so difficult that they resist it internally and tell themselves they are failing in some way if the change doesn’t happen the way they think it should.  See more of Shawn Anchor’s interview with Oprah, on OWN:

Focusing on what you don’t want doesn’t make you happy.  Rather, focusing on what you do want, and raising yourself to those thoughts, or that “vibration” as Abraham-Hicks would say, is what will help you arrive at your happiness.    Here is what Abraham-Hicks says, which goes along well with what Achor says above:

“It may sound odd, but the fastest way to get to a new-and-improved situation is to make peace with your current situation. By making lists of the most positive aspects you can find about your current situation, you then release your resistance to the improvements that are waiting for you. But if you rail against the injustices of your current situation, you hold yourself in Vibrational alignment with what you do not want, and you cannot then move in the direction of improvement. It defies Law.

Since a powerful desire for improvement is always born out of unpleasant situations, the larger part of you is already experiencing the benefit of the contrast you have lived, and you can—much more easily than many of you believe—begin, right now, to receive the benefit of that contrast. It may not be easy at first, but it really is as simple as making the best of where you are.

In every particle of the Universe, there is that which is wanted—and the lack of it. By making a decision to orient yourself to look for what is wanted, you will change your Vibrational patterns of resistance and it will not be possible to remain in unwanted situations for long periods of time.”

Not only does negative thinking not work, it defies Law.


So, how does one go about thinking more positively?  Anchor says to lower energy,  Abraham Hicks says to use the energy to focus on what is rather than what isn’t.  And, here is another tool. Mike Dooley, a Vibration Activist, says, ‘Detach from your attachment to the THING! And focus on the feeling of your desire. Get so good at feeling it, before it shows up that you don’t care if it shows up. Then of course, it shows up.”  The common theme with all of these approaches?   We do not need to worry.   If we want to create changes in our lives, worry is not at all mentioned anywhere as a helpful step.  Rather, appreciating where you are at NOW and finding your way to your true DESIRES is going to assist you on the path to happiness ever more efficiently.

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Happiness, as Danielle Laporte describes, “is like rising bubbles — delightful and inevitably fleeting. Joy is the oxygen — ever present.  Happiness is always passing through. It can claim your full attention for the ten seconds it takes to swallow a sip of incredible coffee. Or it can stream through your being for weeks on end. But happiness can’t hold the same space as sadness, or anger, or the range of so-called “negative” emotions for very long. This is why it’s transitory.” This is such a needed lesson.   We strive for happiness, the fleeting emotion, and need to realize that joy is our real goal.   Joy and Peace and Letting go.  Detachment.   Detachment from an emotion, a thought process, a breakdown of lower energy and vibration.  

When you decide you want to create change, remember happiness is just a thought and vibration away.   I send you lots of clarity and strength on your journey to Change.

7 Replies to “What makes you want to change? Thinking happy thoughts.”

  1. Yes, happiness can not hold the same space as anger, sadness or negative thoughts. You must prepare yourself everyday to walk the path of happiness and joy, so that you can live the life you desire. This is such an important point to grasp for not only myself but also my clients. ..I am constantly trying to not only preach this, but to live it as well.

  2. Really needed to read that – especially today! I currently in the case of my life where I finished all my studies (for now) and have to figure out what to do next – it is difficult and going to read this article several more times to let all the great tips sink in!

  3. I really enjoyed this. I completely agree with your thoughts on attachment. It has always amazed how the less attached I am to a certain path or outcome, the more easily it materializes. I also really like how you differentiated between happiness and joy. They are commonly used interchangeably. Great post, this could be of immense benefit to someone who is feeling “stuck”!

  4. Great post! I agree, what you think about you bring about. This also makes me think about the law of motion…. An object in motion stays in motion and an object at rest stays at rest. When I feel stuck and not moving forward I think about small steps I can take to help with a larger project. Like if I feel disorganized at home, I’ll focus on organizing one thing for an hour rather than push myself to make a day of it. Small steps go a long way for me and help me feel motivated towards the end result. I take big projects and break them down into attainable and realistic goals that don’t feel as much like “work”.

  5. Cynthia, great post! I was one of those people that had to completely and consciously change the way my thoughts were worded. It took time and a lot of patience with myself to become the positive and happy person I wanted to be. Your aritlcle will be so helpful for others.

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